Speed-Dating Advice
Get Your first date
As you know the first impression can last forever or at least goes a long way, so you may like to make the most of it and remind yourself of the basic ingredients for a successful first date:
• Self-confidence. Be normal, be yourself - confident and happy. Look directly at the date. Make conversation or allow your date to take the first steps. After the first date, let him remember you!
• Be positive. Life is beautiful and positive attracts positive, so to make sure you are getting a great date, just be great yourself! You’ll stand out at this singles event!
• Talk with, not at. Listening and questioning are a very important part of every conversation. So, if you like your date, show your interest by listening and asking questions. Remember - it’s a speed date, not a speed talk - you should only talk for 1/2 of the allotted time, and he for the other half - pause and allow him to jump in frequently!
• Flirt but just not too much. Flirting is great, but can also give the wrong impression so better not to over do it. There’ll be plenty of time for flirtation when the relationship develops! Most people dress provocative at singles events - dress flirty - not provocative and learn the difference!
• Dress to impress, smart/sexy but without looking like you’ve tried too hard for this speed date. Moderation is everything. Be clean and well-groomed, and dress appropriately for the occasion – casual for the pub or local restaurant, smarter for the ballet or theatre.
• Beware the demon drink. When you’re excited and maybe slightly nervous, it’s easy to keep on refilling your glass. It may be a singles event, but treat it like a try-out. You want to keep in control of yourself, so how about limiting yourself to just a couple of drinks. A great dating tip - and a woman particularly might question the motives of a man who keeps trying to ply her with alcohol…
• Just enjoy yourself. Meeting new people is fascinating at singles events, especially when you may be meeting your future partner, so it helps to feel optimistic and look forward to having a great time together!
It’s your turn to be happy! So good luck with your speed date and have fun!
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