Blind Date
Meeting A Date For The First Time
You started online dating to meet a man. And now you want to get a guy. Now it is time to meet your online match for the first time. Meeting him in a comfortable environment is your best strategy for transitioning to a relationship in the real world and to get a guy. The wonderful world of the blind date is here!
Meet As Friends
If you want a little first date help, when it comes time to meet your online match in person, meet as friends. Don’t go to your first meeting with the idea in your mind that he is The One or might be The One. You want to know how to get a guy, and thinking either of those will ensure you don’t! That puts way too much pressure on your first meeting.
Meet At An Agreed Place
When your match has decided that he is ready to meet you, let him pick the place to meet. This allows him to choose a place in which he will feel comfortable. He may ask for some guidance and making a few suggestions is fine. You might also want to give him a few no-go places if you don’t enjoy a particular type of food, but you should try to be flexible.
Good Blinddate advice - be reasonable, and not too much of an expensive first date. Unless one of you is driving a long distance, I would try to make the meeting fairly short. Meeting for lunch, coffee or dessert all work well since none implies huge expectations.
Dress Casual
I would suggest you discuss with your match dressing casual for your first meeting. I think that helps everyone to keep their expectations in check and promotes a friendly, comfortable environment to explore the possibilities for romance. Your focus should be on one another, not the clothes that you each are wearing. Want more details about how to dress? Get the book!
Have Fun
When you finally meet your match, relax, be yourself and have a good time. You will look your best with a smile on your face.
Send An E-Mail After Your First Meeting
More great first date help - if you had a successful first meeting, before you go to bed, send him a short e-mail saying that you enjoyed meeting him in person. It is a nice way to let him know that you are interested and it is the best way to help move the relationship forward. If you met him online, or you have communicated online, you can bet he won’t go to sleep without checking his email! This is a nice touch!
Transitioning To A Real World Relationship
Meeting your match for the first time is a big step in transitioning you from an online/phone relationship to one in the real world. It still may be awhile before your match is comfortable enough to give you his phone number so that you can call him or his address so you can pick him up for a date. That will come with time, try to be patient and understanding. This is how to get a guy - patience might get you somewhere, impatience won’t get you anywhere.
Safety is your utmost concern!
I can’t stress this enough - your agreed upon spot for the blind date should feel safe to you. Pick a place where you know you’ll be able to enter and exit easily, and park in a well-lit lot at decent hours of the day!
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