Beyond the First Date
It happens to all of us - when we are young - we just don’t know it because we are so excited and it just sort of happens. When we are older, and we decide to date again, we need a little dating help. We have first date jitters, and we need to learn a few first date rules so that we can get beyond the first-date.
There are some things that are appropriate depending on your situation and your goals. If you decide that you are going to date again because you are newly single and just want to get out, you are lonely, you want to meet new people, you want a physical relationship - well - these all have different outcomes if we are successful.
What we’ll talk about are the first date rules one needs to obey in order to get to date number two. One needs to act like themselves, and be on their best behavior. What if you say - “well - I’m not that well behaved”. Leave that for date number 3 or 4 - just behave if you can. Keep the conversation clean, arrive neat and tidy, hold great conversation and show genuine interest in the other person.
You are both out to have fun - and on the first date, both of you are wanting the same thing - you want to leave feeling good about yourself and that other person, and you’d like the excitement of thinking about a second date.
You might be nervous, and have first date jitters. Just remember one thing - the other person is probably in the same boat. Try to calm your nerves by telling yourself that if you are just your best “you”, that it’ll all go great. If it doesn’t, well, then, it’s probably not your fault. Keep remembering that. Another dating rule of thumb - why worry about something that hasn’t happened yet? Like “what if they don’t like me”, “what if I spill spaghetti on my shirt”?
If you want to sit around and dwell on the bad things that COULD happen - just stay home, or again think positively - they’ll go well if you keep a level head, try to think about having a nice time and having fun, and focus on learning something about the other person.
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